Merry Christmas

December is here and in my life, it’s been the month God has shown Himself strong on my behalf. Let me boast on the Lord for a minute: December 2006 - brand new luxury debt free vehicle December 2010 - new house December 2012 - surprise day of beauty sponsored by a group of ladies December 2015 - won a corporate global award at my job December 2017 - the man who’d become my husband let it be known he was pursuing me to marry me While God is not bound by time, the manifestations of His goodness are evidence to never count Him in ANY calendar year. Especially in 2020. I’ve seen comments about people being ready to hurry up and get to 2021.  We still have twenty-four more days for God’s glory to shine! Think about it: you’ve made it this far into a year that has had our heads turning and spinning very which way. That’s praiseworthy alone! Hallelujah! Proverbs 17:22 says “A merry heart does good, like medicine, But a broken spirit dries the bones.” When we’ve had a tough year, it migh...
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Confessions of a Single Woman: I Didn't Know How to Act Around a Man

Yes, you read that right! I didn't know how to act around a man...that is, a man who liked me and I liked him. Now, if I didn't like him or he didn't like me, I was cool.  But if there was a mutual "likeness" going on, I had a problem!  My emotions and feelings went into overdrive, as did my controlling, fearful side. So, I had to ask God why was I like that?  The answer was simple: I wasn't used to being treated well by a man and I didn't know how to "relate" to one either. Come again God?

 As He took me back over my life, my relationship encounters with men were almost always sexual.  What I didn't realize was that this pattern was training me to deal with men in three ways: sleep with them, cut them off, or wait for them to leave. Every man I ever dealt with relationship wise fell into one of these three categories. Now, this excludes men with whom who I was genuinely friends.  But all the other ones could be placed there.

When I gave my life to the Lord and set out to be delivered from fornication, I did just that. As the years went on, I stayed away from relationships which meant that I didn't learn how to really act. I simply suppressed it all. I desire to be married but I didn't realize how much learning I have to do. Ladies (and men), when you have overwhelmingly experienced negative things in your relationships, you will HAVE to allow the Lord to transform you by the renewing of your mind and rebuild you. You will also have to allow Him to move you past the old and let Him do a new thing. Friends, it may not be an easy process but it will be a necessary one. At first, the ways and behaviors you learned will push their way to the forefront because they are dominant.  They will continue to be dominant until you learn to yield more and more to the ways and behaviors of God.  Don't be dismayed!!! I got good news for you!  The Lord is a builder!!!!!  He WILL rebuild you! How do I know this? Because Jeremiah 31:4 says so!

As a new calendar year approaches, I encourage you to start TODAY! Don't dismiss the last few days of this year as unimportant.  In the natural, before anything is built, plans are drawn up. Jeremiah 29:11 speaks about the plans God has for us. Let the Lord rebuild you according to His plans, which are laid out all through His Word. Hallelujah!

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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